At 5 she found her husband....

Dear Daughters,

One day you will fall in love.

And in the mean time, I plan to dialogue the heck out of this topic with you both.
You're welcome, or I'm sorry.
I'm not sure yet.

I know some of your friends have "crushes" and such already.
And while that is harmless, I really don't desire that for you.
Not yet. That's for sure.

Of course, I'm new to this mothering thing, but at the ages of 5&7, I am in NO hurry to hurry this along.

However.

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Emily, two years ago at a normal bedtime you told me you had found your future husband.

Well, let me first say. The day I learned I was pregnant, I began praying daily for your future spouse.
And that night, I was NOT expecting you to say those words.

In fact, up until that moment you still seemed dead set on marrying your daddy, so I was shocked that it all changed so fast. LOL!

It was a big moment for me.
I was tired, I had stuff to do, and I was caught completely off guard. I had not "prepared" for that convo, especially not that evening.

But something in me paused. I asked God to give me wisdom before I even opened my mouth.

(For those new to having a relationship with The Lord, I literally just in my thoughts took a few moments and thought something like "Oh Lord, this is a conversation I am soooooo not prepared for, PLEASE give me wisdom." It doesn't have to be complicated... I promise.)

I didn't giggle.
I didn't say "awwww how cuuuuute your first crush".... nope!

(I know this is something that plays into her entire life so I took the time to thoughtfully dialogue with her.)

I asked you who it was, and then I asked what things about him you most liked.

And I dug for the CHARACTERISTICS that you identified. And that's where we spent our conversation.

You liked things like:
-he makes everyone laugh. We talked about humor and joy.
-he is kind. We talked about kindness and gentleness.
-he plays with her and everyone else. We talked about attention and where we invest our time.

Oh! We talked and talked.

Then I told you that I have been praying for your future spouse since the day I learned I was pregnant and I asked if for the first time together, if we could pray for that special person. I reminded you of the many, many, many, many reasons I love you. I talked with you about how much I LOVEEEEE living with you, and how when the day comes for you to live with your Husband that I will love watching that (from afar) too!!!! And we prayed.

And it was beautiful.

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And so far, ha!, 2 years later, we identify and dialogue characteristics she likes and doesn't like in others.

Because, if I don't take the time now to talk with her about her future... I'm afraid she will listen to the voices willing to "take the time" later.

And I am so not okay with that.